Women's Issues / Disinformation
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An op-ed came to my attention recently about how to make
women happy. Unfortunately the piece was full of misinformation,
disinformation, and a new form of idiocy. Sometimes men have to stay out of
women’s issues in order to be relevant.
Since I am a woman, I am going to give men a little help in
this arena about how to make women happy. My point of view, feminism, is to
support women in positive ways that makes their lives and deeds positive for
society. My brand of feminism does not hate men, homosexuals, or other women
who spew hatred and call it feminism.
Now that we know the rules of engagement, we can proceed.
In order to make a woman in your life happy, a man has to do
some very simple acts:
Do not leave your dirty clothes, wet towels on the floor.
Do not blow off your woman when she is talking to you.
Do not act like you have had a worse day than your woman.
First, you married, are living with, or have a woman in your
life because you love her. You need her. You cannot face the world without her.
That woman, your co-creator, co-captain, co-pilot in this
life should be respected for everything you do not see her do: keep up the
house, raise the kids, send all those holiday and birthday cards you sign, do
the grocery shopping, manage your home life schedule, call the plumber, pay the
bills, and whatever else she does when you are at work. So why with her busy
schedule and stress would you come home to either one up her or diminish her
responsibilities by emotionally blackmailing her into sympathizing about your
traffic jam?
So you can get some alone time. Fifteen minutes but usually
an hour of no kids, no phone calls, so you can take a load off. All the while,
the woman you are in love with is making dinner for everyone and has not had
any alone time, not to mention a break, ever.
As the man of the house it is your duty to set an example
for your children on how a family is supposed to run from the father’s point of
view. Your sons will grow up to treat their spouses like you treat yours. Your
daughters will grow up to look for a man like you to marry. Children see how
you ignore your woman when she speaks, how you do not do as you said you were
going to do, which leads to your woman “nagging” you.
When a man ignores or rebuffs his woman, that message is
received loud and clear by the rest of the family, including your woman. The
message is that if you do not respect the mother of your children, why should
your children or anyone else respect her either? Then your children perpetuate
that cycle when they grow up.
Then there is the health hazard of dirty clothes and wet
towels on the floor. These items can also cause slips and falls. Best if these
items are hung up or placed in the hamper, whichever is appropriate. That is
called respect for your woman, children, and yourself.
The clues here are: if a man is going to act like a child,
then a woman is going to treat you like a child.
If a woman has to be placed in a subordinate role of slave
by having to mother the man, nag (which is pleading) to get a man to finish or
do something she needs done, and clean up after a man, then a woman is going to
go elsewhere for respect and love.
A woman therefore becomes unhappy with her lot in life as an
unappreciated, unloved slave. A relationship with a woman has to be nurtured,
grown. A woman has to know that you are her shoulder and her muscle.
Women do not want to be in a life long relationship with men
who are not mature adults. Women do not want football and gaming addicts. Women want
someone that is their equal in will power, responsible behavior, and loving
actions.
Women do not want men who hide behind religion to make
excuses how a man is this and a man is that. Women do not want men who hide
behind the law to make more excuses as to why a man cannot be a responsible
person. (I am talking to divorcés here using children as pawns.)
And, for your god’s sake: pull up your damn pants already!
No woman of any quality wants a man who shows off his underwear to fellow
inmates on the street saying he is available for sex. Gross. Stop playing a “gangsta,” which is a
fictional character, and start being a real emotionally available human being.
So this little informative op-ed is to counter a terrible
op-ed about how to make women happy. What the piece from the male writer
forgot to include while he was on his religious and conservative soapbox is
that the answers are not taking away the birth control pill and washing
machine, but to advise men to clean up their acts, act like adults, and just
love and respect women in their lives.
Still he dug a bigger hole for men everywhere to climb out of.
The rate of infertility is not because women are confused
about mating with a rugged man and looking for a responsible man to cohabitate
with. What nonsense. Infertility has to do with our poisoned air, water, and food. Stress is
also a huge factor in fertility and stresses of life lead to depression:
“Infertility and depression frequently go together. While
you may not be surprised to learn that infertility can lead to depression, you
might not know that people who experience depression are more likely to have
fertility problems,” states the article: Infertility and Depression 101.
When women are demoralized, demeaned, and debased, men do
not realize that the patriarchal confines of society are creating these
depressed outcomes. Depression causes a myriad of health related issues,
including but not limited to: infertility.
Women usually have little hope for help. A woman cannot go to
religious counselors without having their problems ignored but turned around on
them. For heaven’s sake women, Eve is at fault and so are you is the recurrent
theme and attitude of religion. This negative behavior is lived and relived
everyday in a wife, girlfriend, female significant others' experiences at home
and at the office. Isn’t it time for society to wake up?
Just like blaming women for being “confused” is blatant
disrespect toward the mental faculties and sensibilities of women. That disparaging
behavior also signifies the fact that women still have a long way in American
society to garner any type of equality.
If men would put down their attitudes, conjured religious
texts, and stood up to be counted at home and in society, women could get some stress relief. Instead men are too busy being arm
chair quarterbacks making women do all the heavy lifting and criticizing them
for making $0.70 on the dollar, we as a human race cannot move forward if we are always taking a step back.
Until men can stop writing pieces for political sites just
to be “right” about this, that, or some issue and come to a real understanding
about what women live then I do not see society changing for the better.
Men: it is not always necessary to be right about something,
which in the case of the aforementioned op-ed is nowhere close to being right,
it is necessary to sit down, listen, and correct what needs to be corrected.
If you disagree, then why has divorce skyrocketed in this
country in the last few decades? And, don’t tell me it’s because women are
confused about the urges of their mating cycle. I think men have become
confused about their juvenile cuteness factor.
While you are at it, men, if you would like a harmonious
life with women maybe you should also stop polluting the air, water, and food.
That would be helpful. Depression and other illnesses are also due to low
nutritional rate especially in mineral uptake. A happy Mother Earth would make happy
mothers everywhere.
But who am I to contradict a man with my factual and humanizing information? I am just a woman.
Sources: Very Well,
